How come I forget that people have the power to ruin my reputation? Why is a good reputation the only carrot for being a good person- at least for me?

! Today I met someone with bad luck in love. She had so many theories about the cause: the city she was in, sexuality, the fact that she was living with her partner when it turned bed, the fact that they met in a shopping mall. Clearly the right path to love is to avoid […]

! I’m investing today helping a friend find a job. That’s the kind of showing love you should be getting and giving in any healthy relationship: friend, romance, family, even work. How can I know if my boyfriend truely loves me? I’d give my life for him Thanks   He loves you if he is […]

! This card reminds me of myself a long time ago. Yes, it is possible to overcome social anxiety. 🙂 I’m so self-conscious in certain situations. How can I overcome that and gain more confidence?   There’s a technique called “stop thinking”. When you have an anxious thought, acknowledge it without guilt and choose to […]

! It’s a mistake to think that you have to figure life all out right away. Sometimes, you just try stuff and see what works. That requires a good inner sense of what’s making you happy. Here’s a question about that. How do you know when you’re on the right track? Use your head, not […]

! Today an article came out in the Boston Globe on the Abyss, here. There are commonly people in the garden all day, every day now, and in the evening as well since we have night lighting. It’s nice having so many friendly faces around. What’s my next step? Make a list of the change […]

! I’m taking my best friend to an amusement park today for his birthday. Not everything is perfect in his life right now, but embracing life is going to give him strength. And me too. How can I find peace within myself and the world that is so fierce? Forgive yourself. Forgive others. Don’t give […]

! We have a new potential roommate, whom I took to a museum and a park today. It was nice to spend some time getting comfortable with someone who may soon share our home. This card made me wonder if there’s really anything about a successful marriage that’s different than any sucessful relationship. Basically, be […]

!! Today, my first email question for the Abyss. If you want to submit your own question online, just click “Write a Card”. My youngest son wants to be a rapper and told me this past weekend that he does not want to go to UMASS in a few weeks…the next Eminem!! What would the […]

! Last night I went to watch the Perseids meteor shower. I chose a bad place — too much light pollution — but the sky was nice and we saw a deer! A good example of bad luck turning good. There’s always this kind of potential in a downturn. It shakes up your life and […]

! I went to my hometown, Rehoboth, Massachusetts, on Sunday to an agricultural fair. I took Ginger and showed her the house I grew up in. I’m such a city person now I can’t really imagine choosing to live in such a small town. So I commonly complain about how boring it was. The Rehoboth […]