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No. It's terribly imbalanced to let your mom call you daily as her therapist, let your lover tell you he's sorry but needs you but take no corrective action, to let your parents guilt trip you into coming home more often than you'd like, to let your work pressure you into extra hours. Get a friend, be brave, and break every one of these phony requirements . Then find new people who do give beck.