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Either you're mistaken (and you sort of talk at people instead of with then, caring about their life too), or they feel that your plans for success are vague and unworkable, which makes your hopefulness look naive. How much percent of a conversation is you? Join a club, or contact one of the local talent agencies looking for extras. You make good contacts & new ambitions friends!