“I think the solution is just to work on your basic happiness. How about cultivating your project? Ma asdfadsf ”

I think the solution is just to work on your basic happiness. How about cultivating your project? Make a list of things that make you happy and sad. Try the happy ones when you feel like spending. And isn't this all or nothing dating concern on the sad list? You need to throw that out and be open to possible failure to get success in love.