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It's all based on having an understanding of your own happiness that is grounded. Our emotions are a shortcut for thinking at an animal level, but a gut instinct just isn't good enough for complex questions about life goals. Get a friend & make a list of pros & cons. Brainstorm & drill down to what's really important & find a way to have work, life & family happily.