“Maybe he shuts down because every time you want to have a talk you can’t stay on and resolve o asdfadsf ”

Maybe he shuts down because every time you want to have a talk you can't stay on and resolve one topic at a time with a friendly rather than harping tone. Be as matter-of-fact as you can & build good will with kindness. If that doesn't work & you fight a lot, maybe you're just not a match.