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No, it's allowing yourself to obsess over memories that can be an obstruction. You're a new person now by embracing change and recognizing the past for what it is. Love your new self so matter what you think of the old. And when you start to find bad memories intruding call a friend or watch TV or read a book to get your mind off it.