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Ouch! My heart goes out to you. I used to think I had no sense, for good or bad relationships, I'd get hurt and only. Then I realized that I was being permissive, sort of allowing & excusing people for minor stuff in the hopes that it would get better all by itself. I stopped getting hurt as much when I learned to say no to someone who was rude to the waiter.