Civilization only happened recently, & humans are still mostly animal. We’re bad at resolving short-term urges with long-term fulfillment. We get trained by off -balance people in our lives that openness leads to attack. We think from our heart & allow life’s complexities to let us, both men & women, not use our head to define what we want from life. The solution is communication & reject those lucking the confidence to know & be open.