Humans are very adaptable, and when life goes badly the sour grapes attitude can happen. Suddenly we didn’t really want what we couldn’t get. Although self-delusion may help us keep struggling & not give up, it can also mislead us into not knowing what’s making us unhappy & what should change if our life is to improve. Pay attention to people’s motivations to get a sense of honesty. Do they have anything to gain by misleading you?n<3