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The trick is to know yourself, without illusions & make a list of what you want in a mate. Then you can say no to the wrong people without the 3 months. Get some practice by dating once a week. Remove the relationships & obligations that drain you of energy. That builds confidence and that's attractive. Marriage? Not? Use your head.