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To know this, start by getting to know yourself.nWhat makes you happy? What do you think makes you happy that really doesn't? Then try to characterize your mate, being analytical since we all know our hearts can mislead us.nWhat qualities do you love, and don't over idealize!nMarriages are not made healthy by tolerating problems, but by identifying & solving them. If you have to, consider leaving.