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Use your head & make a list of possibilities. Do some investigation & ask a broad number of people for advice. Does it seem to make sense? Is there another side to the argument? What's the underlying motivation of the people trying to convince you & do they respect your having goals and a viewpoint that may be different? Without delusions, is what you're doing really making you happy?