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Use your head, not your heart. First build confidence & get to know what really makes you happy by making a list and by backing away from draining responsibilities & relationships. Remove fear of the future & lower the stakes for taking risks by building a contingency plan in case things don't go well. Then when you want to know something for sure, make a list of pros & cons and share it with a friend. It's less important to know for sure & more important to be realistic & alert for a downturn.