“Wanting is rarely an efficient way to fix something. It’s time to set some boundaries & t asdfadsf ”

Wanting is rarely an efficient way to fix something. It's time to set some boundaries & tell them that if they want a close relationship with you, you need them to respect you & your different goals. Downplay the conflict & never rise to the temptation to bark - it just gives them proof to misjudge you on. Try humor instead.