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You start by using your head to outvote your heart. Don't jump ahead to posing solutions to your mom. Start by empathizing & letting her know you support & respect her. People (parents, kids, anyone) don't take advice otherwise. Then focus on getting her to acknowledge the problem. Have her make a list of problems in her life & whether she's happy. A solution will then be easy. Since you're not a usual authority figure, you may need help from your mom's friends.