My car has lots of problems — bad cluth, engine, brakes, body. I don’t need your help for that — I know the answer: get a better car.
But I also have lots of problems; perhaps any one could be fixed, but perhaps not. But there’s no “Craigslist.com:new/used me” section. How do I get a better me?
You start by figuring out what to love & what to throw out. That makes the problem seem smaller when you write it down and set yourself goals.
The things you should change are the things that aren’t leading to happiness. And most people cannot change through sheer willpower. Be brave & ask a friend for help! An outside perspective is invaluable.
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