What should I do when I grow up? (I’m so)

This is me showing off the new roof. It certainly doesn’t stop the wind! Lots of bent cards this week from high winds. I wonder if we’ll be able to keep this going all winter. Maybe not. Here’s a haunting question, a great one for Halloween week.     Will I make a difference? Will […]

This is my roommate showing off the new shrine roof, in progress.     When will I breath again?   Make a list of problems in your life. Get a friend and make a plan. It’s smaller than you feared, isn’t it? Breathe. 🙂   Want this blog by email? Enter your email at http://wheelquestions.org. […]

My roommate Mauricio has been helping me put a new roof on the shrine in the garden. The old roof probably would have cracked under the winter snow. I’ll post some photos of the project. The idea is to make this blog seem less impersonal. It’s a real project and you are now part of […]

Today I’m happy, because tomorrow I am going to Salem with a friend and doing Halloween stuff.     How can I learn to worry less?   Worry, like any emotion, gets stronger when you fixate on it. Distract yourself whenever anxious thoughts come to you, with a book or TV or calling a friend. […]

I saw a ladybug today in the garden! Here’s a pic.     How can I help the one I love to stay strong in such sour times?

I got the same question twice from the same person. Neither answer is quite perfect, so here are both. These little cards are tiny to pack advice into!     What should I do about the kids that teas me in school   Use your head – not your heart – to think about what […]

I’ve met a number of people lately who’ve entered the garden looking for the card they wrote a question on, so they can read the answer I wrote. Sometimes it’s hard to find the card, so I’m starting to post them chronologically with little date signs.     Dear card answerer, I am on the […]

  I am afraid. How can I take a step and overcome the fear of true love while stuck in my past?   Fear of love comes from being permissive & idealistic, so that you “dont’ see” bad behavior in a mate. And if you lack confidence, you may have unrealistic ideas about “never finding […]

  Why am I so angry?   A lot of times, it’s just body chemistry. You can fight it by thinking when you’re angry, “how much would I pay to make this go away?” $5,000? $5? How angry can you be over $5? Dwelling on it or punching a pillow focuses anger. Distract your vengeful […]

It’s strange but true. Friends with issues may view you as “interfering” if you start pushing solutions on them before they even agree a problem exists. It’s easier to view others than it is to view onesself. They’ll need help getting through a reality check.     How do you help an extremely self-concious friend […]